The ways you shut down, overthink, people-please, pull away, or feel everything all at once, they didn’t come from nowhere. They came from experience. From environments that asked too much of you, too early, with too little support.
Most of us were never taught how to feel. Not because the people around us didn’t love us, but because nobody taught them either. They were carrying wounds they never had the chance to heal, passing on patterns they never chose.
That’s not blame. That’s just how it travels, quietly, from one generation to the next.
Understanding that is not the end of the story. It’s where yours begins to change.